Talk is cheap, if you truly mean something, do something to show it.
Everyone does this, it’s impossible not to. Regardless though, people need to start to take responsibility for the words they say. Or better yet, show the action first and then back it up with words.
You’re my friend? Prove it.
You say you love me? Show it.
You’re sorry? Prove it.
You want to be better? Show it.
You may think this sounds harsh or you might agree with me. The bottom line is, I’m tired of people (myself included) saying they feel or want to be a certain thing.
It’s all very well and good to say something and mean it but, the person on the otherside has no idea whether these are just words. And the majority of the time, they are just that, words. Letters jumbled together on paper or articulations of sound grouped together that are supposed to mean something.
They say the pen is mightier than the sword. Yet, if what the pen writes out isn’t followed through with then the pens no bloody good is it?
It’s like if a treaty is signed by two countrys and then one goes to war with the other anyway. That treaty and time spent on it was just useless.
It isn’t sustainable. The thought process to give empty words with no intention behind them just causes relationships to crumble. Actions are real instances that can build foundations rather than send them tumbling.
Check yourself right now. Do you use your words to support and strengthen your actions or do you use them in place of actions?
You may not have even realised you think this way, I didn’t that’s for sure. But with time, I noticed others doing it to me and I didn’t like it. It’s not nice, it’s not good, it’s not fair. From then, I decided to try my best not do that to others.
Think about the process this way,
I want to show I love this person.
I invest time and effort into them through cooking them dinner and watching a movie with them. I wash up for them. I listen to them. I help them with a problem. I comfort them when they are sad. I show physical affection for them.
I tell them I love them.
In this process you’ve done the action and then backed it up with words. The actions that you’ve shown reaffirm the words that you’ve said. You’ve shown them your love.
The flip side example could be,
Saying you’re their friend.
You say your are their friend and that you love and care for them. You don’t spend time with them, you don’t follow through on past words, you don’t support them.
The fact that you’ve said you are their friend doesn’t make it so.
Think about it through science, a scientist has a theory. Before this theory is accepted as scientific law it has to be proven. Otherwise the theory is just words.
If you’re realising you’ve just used words in the past and it’s affected a relationship don’t worry, it’s not too late. That’s the thing about actions. If you continue to show how you feel with actions, over time they heal relationship wounds. With actions you show you can change.
Try to heal a relationship with words though?
You’re just doing the same thing and will end up right where you started.
The take off from this?
- Start using actions as your feelings and back them up with words later.
- Go back and right any wrongs with actions rather than words even if it takes multiple tries. *
*If at first you don’t suceed try, try again.
If your talk is cheap, start to make it worth something.